Ladies (Especially Black Ladies)

hehasinsomnia:

I can assure you I am not fucking racist.

How are you gonna get mad at me saying that black girls look pretty when they are mixed with something? So you can get mad at me when I say that but then be wetter than Sea World over Drake?

How are you really gonna get mad when I say that sometimes (and I’m sorry) black girls have nappy ass hair?

I’m sorry that’s the way the world works sometimes, ladies.

I’m from the ghettos of northen cali, I have black cousins. I fucking love soul food. I have a huge dick. I should have been born black but unfortunately I wasn’t.

It’s not me being racist, it’s me being fucking real with you, ladies, gawdamn.

-Alex.

That was fast.

Not surprised he didn’t learn anything from the angry reblogs of his last post tho. 

I think it’s really funny when people say stuff like this because history has taught the opposite for hundreds of years - that a lot of mixed people are born out of racism (or rape… or both in some cases) 
Historically, the existence of mixed people in various areas in the south didn’t stop slavery or Jim Crow and make whites realize that “we’re all people”.
Nope, it just made white women angry that their husbands were knockin’ up them dang negro slaves (see Sally Hemmings).
And I won’t even stop at the US. If you know anything about how race works in various parts of Latin America you’d know that despite the long existence of mestizos, whiteness still rules. 
God help you if you’re afro-latino, people don’t even acknowledge your existence within the Latin American diaspora. 

I think it’s really funny when people say stuff like this because history has taught the opposite for hundreds of years - that a lot of mixed people are born out of racism (or rape… or both in some cases) 

Historically, the existence of mixed people in various areas in the south didn’t stop slavery or Jim Crow and make whites realize that “we’re all people”.

Nope, it just made white women angry that their husbands were knockin’ up them dang negro slaves (see Sally Hemmings).

And I won’t even stop at the US. If you know anything about how race works in various parts of Latin America you’d know that despite the long existence of mestizos, whiteness still rules. 

God help you if you’re afro-latino, people don’t even acknowledge your existence within the Latin American diaspora

I am multiracial and you don’t have the right to know “what I am.”

fkef:

“Girl I love your hair.”

“you so sassy”

“don’t make me snap my fingers in a Z formation.”

“racism doesn’t exist.”

“I have black friends.”

“You don’t look black.”

“Oh no you di’int.”

White people say these things because to them it’s racist that only black people are allowed to say some things. To white people, I am white, so I am not allowed to say those things lest I perpetuate their racism. To some black people, I am black. To everyone else I’m jewish. People of ethnic minority like to say that their identities are always being taken away. Can you stop for a second and think of what it is like to not have one, for your identity to not exist? To be “other” on all surveys that even allow there to be something other than “black,” “Caucasian,” “Asian?” Can you imagine your race not being an option? My identity isn’t even an option. It doesn’t exist. How am I supposed to feel?

Based on my heredity I lack identity.

Other minorities try to tell me that I haven’t had the experiences they’ve had. And I haven’t. But I haven’t had a white experience, either. I may pass, but I know that I’m just passing. I have never been able to say that I’m white. Never. In psychological identity studies, multiracial isn’t even studied. There aren’t big enough sample sizes to determine the mental effect of not being an option.

I spoke up in my psych class the other day. We were talking about centralism, private regard, and public regard in reference to ethnic identity. I asked the professor what is shown when private and public regard don’t match? She said that rarely happens. I said that as a multiracial person, my private and public regard are generally in disagreement.

Other minorities think I’m just a white girl. They think I’m another white girl taking away their identity, but they don’t even know that they have ignored and denied me one.

50 experiences of a mixed race person

themariaproblem:

So I found this list that a psychologist created of 50 experiences a mixed raced person has probably had, and it’s pretty spot on. If you’re not of mixed race, this might be something you haven’t seen before, and you’ll probably be confused as to why these things matter to us so much. Here are some answers:

  • We’ve been dealing with it our entire lives.
  • Whenever you question us, you question us. Our self image is constantly being taken apart by questioning, disbelief, and prejudice. So our identity becomes this fragile sculpture made of mismatching parts and held together by weak adhesives. When you call us into question, you casually knock the sculpture off the shelf without apologizing. 
  • We’ve trained ourselves not to blame the insensitive person. we blame it on ourselves, our parents, or God. Believe me, we’d much rather blame you, but we’re too well trained. 
  • We are tragically underrepresented. It’s not like we don’t have rights, but we don’t have much empathy. Our plight is pretty specific, and we get that, so we kind of just accept remaining that (excuse this most heinous of puns) gray area. But I have friends that struggle with gender identity, and I’ve found that they have similar grievances against our binary society.

Maria P. Root

The 50 questions or comments and experiences evolved from a questionnaire I developed for a study on biracial siblings I conducted from 1996 to 1997. These questions and comments provide an introduction to the way in which race consciousness is brought up directly, sideways, and from all sides for people of mixed heritage.

These comments and questions, though not an exhaustive list, provide a window into how this country internalizes assumption about race, belonging, and identity. They socialize the mixed race person to understand as well as question race American style.

It is a monoracial system; one race per person. Not everyone experiences these questions or comments the similarly. One person might enjoy being asked, “What are you?” whereas their sibling might dread and resent the question. This list provides a launching point for sharing, discussing, laughing, debriefing, and educating.

 

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A while ago one of my ex’s was telling me how his then gf (a white girl) had looked at my pics & said to him “How could you have went out with her, she’s ugly”!

soydulcedeleche:

karnythia:

false-catalyst:

blackcurrantberry:

forbrowngirls:

It definitely angered me and I wanted to tell her off- I mean, who did she think she was? I was persuaded against it ,though and moved on. But as I remember it now , it made me think of how maybe some white people may see black beauty as “secondary” optional or even out of the question while we have grown up and been taught the standards of white beauty even subconsciously. 

I wonder what about me didn’t she think was attractive? 

Honestly, I don’t even care.

I had this experience in reverse, the ” girl next door” was a blond blue-eyed girl, she was so ‘down’ for the guy I was dating, she’d try and pull me down at everything.

If we went to a restaurant with mutual friends she’d order a salad and ask why I wasn’t worried about being fatter than normal.

She’d constantly bang on about her aesthetic “all men want a blond woman, they just can’t admit it”

Upon meeting me her instant comment ” you are never as beautiful as he said you were! You are really….um…. Short”

It’s not inconceivable that some White women find the idea of being in competition with black women hideous.

This shit happens all the time. “Don’t wear glasses we can see your Asian side better when you don’t.” Wtf does that even mean? Because I’m blind and squinting you can see the Asian in my eyes? Nah, fuck you. People are always trying to tell me how to bring out the Asian side of my appearance to look better. As if I live to please them. Then when I don’t and continue to get attention they get confused. It’s baffling to some white women that people would want to be with a black women. They can’t understand it.

I’ve had white women get borderline confrontational back when I was dating white men at the realization that whatever guy they were checking for might be more interested in me. Hilariously it never occurred to them that we might not like the same kind of guy or that the guys interested in me weren’t going to be interested in them whether I was there that night or not.

white women be RAGING anytime anybody looks my way. either that or theyll try to rub up on whoever im with like im not there. they cant stand brown/black competition. at all.

I have noticed this with myself and various white/latina/other non-black PoC females as well. I never understood it, still don’t. It is hurtful though when people do these things to your face as if you’re not going to notice their true feelings and intentions behind their seemingly harmless yet greatly offensive remarks and antics.

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